🌿 7 Days of Safety + Self-Trust + Validation
Access the 7-day practice on Telegram at the Somatic Soul Work Group.
🌸 Watch the replay of the Safety & Self-Trust Shortcut
Inside the Telegram group we’ll practice the Safety + Self-Trust Shortcut together daily.Â
This is the same attunement-based practice I shared in my recent masterclass – please watch it before you join the Telegram group.
It is simple but deeply effective: notice what’s here, acknowledge it, legitimize it, meet yourself with compassion, explore very doable integration.
Summary of the Workshop
- Challenges to Self-Trust and Safety
- Healing Paradigms
- Attunement
- The Safety and Self-Trust Shortcut Practice
Challenges to Self-Trust and Safety
- Self-doubt:Â Feelings are perceived as “too much” or invalid.
- Trauma responses:Â Individuals are caught in patterns like freeze, fawn, collapse, or hypervigilance (anxiety, anticipating doomsday scenarios).
- Inability to show compassion for these responses erodes self-trust and safety.
- Internalized shame:Â Overriding or minimizing emotions due to cultural conditioning and systems of oppression.
- Dependency on external validation:Â Needing approval from outside sources leads to disconnection from self and a lack of internal safety.
Healing Paradigms
- Fixing Mentality:
- Characterized by beliefs such as “there’s something wrong with me” or “I need an external solution.”
- This approach can lead to vulnerability to predatory marketing and cult dynamics, often triggering deeper shame.
- Meeting Paradigm:
- Centers on the belief that one’s feelings, sensations, and experiences are inherently intelligent and make sense.
- Trauma responses and patterns are understood as the system’s attempt to meet needs, fostering compassion.
- Emphasizes that answers reside within oneself, with practitioners serving to teach self-attunement rather than provide external solutions.
Attunement
- Definition:Â Meeting oneself on a somatic, energetic, and emotional level with care.
- Skill Development:Â Attunement is a learned skill, often requiring relearning due to early life conditions that fostered disconnection.
- Distinction from Reassurance:Â Attunement focuses on understanding and meeting a person’s present experience, rather than simply fixing a problem or offering platitudes.
- Impact:
- Slows the nervous system.
- Interrupts emergency and trauma responses.
- Roots individuals in the present moment, fostering witness consciousness.
- Increases coherence, resonance, choice, and agency.
- Coherence and Resonance:Â Preferred over “regulation,” these terms describe the capacity to hold and be with emotions (e.g., anger, sadness) without being overwhelmed, allowing for a deeper connection with one’s system.
The Safety and Self-Trust Shortcut Practice
- This practice is a form of attunement, designed to be simple and quick (3-5 minutes).
- Step 1: Acknowledge and Allow
- Pause and ask: “What am I feeling right now?” (emotionally, somatically, nervous system, energy field).
- State the feeling plainly, even if it’s “I don’t know” or multiple feelings (start with the topmost).
- Step 2: Validate and Legitimise
- Use phrases like “Of course I’m feeling this” or “It makes so much sense that I’m feeling this.”
- Validate the emotion itself, not any associated behaviors.
- This step is crucial for interrupting shame spirals and building self-trust.
- Step 3: Integrate and Explore
- Integrate:Â Place a hand on the body where the sensation is felt, turning towards the emotion 1% more.
- Notice Shifts:Â Look for micro-movements (1% shift is a win), not aiming for 100% change.
- Explore Needs:Â Ask: “Is there anything I need?” or “Is there one small doable step I could take?”
- Consider internal or external stabilizing/supportive energies (e.g., a chair, nature, spiritual beings).
- Small, doable action steps may emerge (e.g., setting a boundary, writing a message).
Benefits of Consistent Practice
- Creates greater clarity, peace, stronger boundaries, self-trust, and a deeper sense of rooted safety.
- Reduces “crazy-making” from internalized gaslighting by validating one’s true experience.
- Shifts focus from external actions/experiences to internal feelings and needs, fostering self-care.
- Develops witness consciousness, creating a slight separation from triggers and stories.
Body, Soul & Spirit Repair || Softness || Slowness || Safety || Trust || Energy || Creativity || Alchemy || Birth & Death || Cycles || Pleasure || Magic || Wisdom Ways || Ancestors || Grounding || Earth
Links mentioned on the video
– Rebirthed & Rooted >> https://www.raehalder.com/rebirthed-rooted/
– Book a Feeler Call with Rachel >> https://calendly.com/assanarae/rooted-feeler-call
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What others are saying about Rooted or 1-on-1 work with Rae.
When I found Rachel’s work, I wasn’t looking for healing. Not in the traditional sense. My life was okay. I wasn’t in breakdown or searching for therapy. But reading the description of the Rooted (Rebirthed & Rooted) program stirred in me a longing for a space where the pieces I’d been gathering in different spaces could be woven together. I had been sitting with land. Working at connections with my ancestors. Tending to spiritual practice and embodiment. When I read the pillars of Rooted – soul, body, land, sex, lineage, and spirit – I remember thinking, this is all of it. This is the integration I’ve been waiting for.
So I said yes. And something began to open.
What surprised me was how quickly Rooted brought long-buried pain to the surface –not in a way that overwhelmed me, but in a way that made sense. The blueprint and soul seed work from the beginning of the program cracked something open in me at a deeper, more embodied level than I had experienced in previous counseling experiences.: What if I had been truly seen? Truly nurtured? It stirred grief I didn’t know I was still holding. Grief that had been compartmentalized and tucked away. But Rachel held that grief with such steadiness, such reverence, that I never felt lost in it.
This wasn’t work that ripped lids off old wounds. It was work that invited me to lift the veils when I was ready.
And so I kept going. After Rooted, I stepped into 1-on-1 sessions with Rachel – not because I was in a mental health crisis, but because I wanted to keep healing. I wanted to stay with what had been stirred.
What I found in our sessions was a skilled sacred companionship. Rachel brings a calm, regulated presence that makes you feel immediately grounded. At the beginning of every session, she asks, Do you want to do some stabilizing? And that alone reminded me there was always stable ground to return to, and developed my own practice of tending to my own needs for grounded stability.
The shifts didn’t feel dramatic. They felt real. Gentle. Gradual, but also tectonic.
I used to think I loved myself. I had already done work, both in and out of counseling, to move past the self-hatred I had inherited. Working with Rachel, I came to realize that there were still parts of myself that I judged, pushed away, tried to fix. Through this work, I’ve come to companion those parts instead. The self-critical voice doesn’t disappear, but it no longer hijacks me. I’ve begun to stay on my own side in relationships. I’ve let go of situations that weren’t meeting my needs without drowning in shame or blame. I’ve softened toward myself. And maybe most importantly, I’ve stopped going AWOL on my own heart. I’m learning how to stay with myself no matter what I’m feeling or what parts of me are showing up.
Rachel doesn’t just believe in your blueprint—she embodies that belief. She creates a space grounded in a deep belief in your wholeness, and it’s impossible not to feel that in her presence. Her pace is slow, yes. But that slowness is what makes the transformation stick. Like tending a garden, she helps prepare the soil, seed the ground, and trust that something will bloom in its own time.
I’ve done more integration between sessions with Rachel than I’ve done in any other therapeutic or coaching relationship. Her tools, symbols, and mantras stay with me. Her voice echoes in my journaling. Even when I think, Oh, I should work on this in my next session with Rachel, I often end up moving through it on my own before then. That’s the kind of support she offers—not dependency, but deepening self-trust.
People may ask if it’s worth the cost. And as someone who is extremely mindful about money, I’ll say this: I’ve never once regretted what I’ve paid to work with Rachel. She’s the most impactful space holder I’ve ever worked with—therapist, coach, or otherwise.
If you’re feeling the pull… trust it. This isn’t flashy healing. It’s powerful, whole-making, blueprint-remembering work. And it has ripple effects throughout your life.
– Pam. Rebirthed & Rooted participant from 2022-2023
When I signed up for Rooted I was looking to deepen my understanding and experiencing of somatic trauma resolution. This felt important to do for my own healing and for my work with clients. This course impacted me profoundly from the beginning and was appropriately titled Rooted + Rebirthed.
Rachel is an expert in the field and her teaching of the material is comprehensive and digestible. I was able to understand myself and my life experiences in a way I hadn’t before.
Prior to the program, my understanding was mostly at the intellectual level. During the program, it became embodied. I went through a deep transformation (which included discomfort) but it allowed me to step into a more authentic, whole, grounded, version of myself. I began to show up differently in all aspects of my life, especially relationships. It shifted family, friend, life, and business dynamics.
This course felt like a graduate level course in trauma. It not only facilitated my own personal transformation but equipped me with tools for supporting clients in their healing journeys. Rachel and the community of participants provided powerful support as I navigated some of the most difficult challenges of my life.
Post Rooted, my nervous system feels more grounded, regulated, and secure. Life continues to happen and I find myself less taken and shaken with what occurs around me. I have rebuilt parts of my life with a sense of self authority and self trust that I did not have before. I am living a life that feels authentic and aligned to me.
If you are curious about this program, trust that part of you and sign up. If you value community, learning, growth, and compassionate support, this is a potent container. If you want to show up as a better human, friend, coach, educator, or healer— this is for you. It’s been verrrrryyyy impactful and has truly changed my life.
– Taryn Weil, Life + Business Coach for Creatives and Entrepreneurs. 1-on-1 client of Rae
There are few things I can recommend as wholeheartedly as Rooted. Nearly three years after our container, the seeds we planted are growing and flourishing in a garden of reconnection to my ancestors, creativity with my artwork, and communion with the earth and my body. Many times over the years since the program I have reflected on the moment after my exploration call when I was contemplating the course but hesitating because of cost. Inherited scarcity of resource of all kinds was one of the central things that drew me to the work of Rooted and it is truly some of the best money I have ever spent.
During our pillar of Soul, a series of watercolors was born through me that I have since polished into a form to share and the medicine of the messages I received is now touching my loved ones in the form of my artwork.Â
I believe connecting to our ancestry and who we were before colonialism (and still are) is an essential ingredient in anti racist work on Turtle Island. I have yet to find another space quite like the one Rae creates that allows for all of us to show up with an invitation into our deepest truth and healing with a trauma informed, spiritual, emerging and accepting love.Â
Before Rooted I was longing for stability within. Despite all external attempts to build a foundation, my inner world would still tremble with change. My life before Rooted was full of doubt, anxiety and scarcity and my life now is … rooted! I can honestly say that since Rooted, a steady force has strengthened within me. Over the course of Rooted, I stopped “shoulding” myself and relaxed into my body and spirit in a way I wasn’t able to before. While it sounds simple, it was the kind of work that needed to happen in a container of community. I now have a sense of being at home in myself wherever I am and have a strengthened communication to earth, body, ancestors, soul, and spirit.Â
If you hear the call to join Rooted I encourage you to accept. I believe this medicine is what our world needs.
– Willow Brooke, 2019-2020 Rebirthed & Rooted Participant (First iteration of this container)
I am so grateful that I was able to be a part of the Rooted container. When it started I had recently gotten married and was looking to start a family (I became pregnant a month into the program). I was also longing to locate myself within “the family of things.” I had a general idea of my lineage, but I never really thought to go deeper.
I had always felt there was something missing from the conversation about race that white people were having. When Rae helped us understand that part of what allows white supremacy to flourish is our disconnection from our ethnic roots, a light bulb went on for me. With no connection to our heritage, white supremacy fills that vacuum. Rooted helped to offer another path into true identity.
Rae has such a gift for holding and creating space. Even though we were virtual, the atmosphere and ambiance of our meetings mattered. She cultivated her physical space and encouraged us to do the same. It truly enriched the practice. Rae also guided us with wise questions and intense breathing practices and visualizations. Gently pushing us to dig into ourselves and the container.
It feels like Rooted illuminated so much of what was already inside me. Rae helped lead me into the depths of my psyche to meet parts of myself I’d all but forgotten. And all the while holding and supporting us with such care and knowledge. The process always felt safe, even if it also felt scary at times. I found a boldness within myself while doing Rooted. An unabashed, unafraid, unedited version of myself that was longing to make some noise and break stuff. And then make the broken new again.
Rooted truly changed my life for the better. It was a transformation portal and I came out feeling much more me. I felt untethered to the ideas the world had for who I ought to be and intune with my divine being. I am so grateful to Rae for offering such a blessing.
– Brooke Oyana, 2019-2020 Rebirthed & Rooted participant (First iteration of this container)